When you are young, you feel at times invincible depending on how you grew up, other times life is an ongoing struggle. After high school, you are clueless since no options were introduced to you regarding what to do with your life, and because of this, life can become confusing which direction to go. Most kids don’t have formal education introduced to them or think it’s something they can’t afford. Let’s not forget there is no one available to share what is going on in the world, well trust me when I say, there isn’t in college either. What happens though to a young female when she has no sense of direction or options that have been introduced to her? Pregnancy and getting married for all the wrong reasons far too young, that’s what?
So what does all of that have to do with Menopause you say? I’m getting there, but let me say this when I was around 40 I was buying undergarments and I asked this young cashier a question. All I recall is her nasty response, “well at least your not sitting down every 5 minutes”. Does anyone know why this happens? Because a woman at 50 loses every ounce of fucken IRON in her body, she has no physical strength because of menopause! I have no doubt that little bitch, will get hers in return!
So when pregnancy takes place, whether it’s your high school sweetheart or some old guy who has a thing for young girls, it’s wrong!!!! Anytime you get married for the wrong reasons or have a kid too young, it’s wrong, for you. This is an act only a mature person should make and an old guy with little financial security is not a solution. Your only means of being young is filling up his EGO!!! Down the line, you might end up wiping his ass, and your life will change and you will regret that decision. I have the right to say this speaking from personal experience. Years down the line the marriage might fail which is common, you’re wondering why the fuck did I make this mistake? But now you’re now stuck working your ass off and raising kids alone. Or staying with a fucken man who turned out to disappoint you and you can’t stand the sight of him anymore.
The years fly by filled with stress, kids are now of age and going through their own personal turmoil and the only thing you have to look forward to is being alone with a moment of sanity as you cherish the peace of mind in the mornings before coffee. Of course, it’s not like that, since those kids you raised are going through their mid-life change (which is very hard), you’re going through menopause and the entire family is at the most difficult time of struggle. Now you are at a point in your life, you’re going to jump ship because of the pressure, feeling powerless and tired, so tired you have no strength left and no control over your own body.
Let me share with you my view of Menopause and why no one talks about it; and how it will feel going through the motions of menopause. I’m going to start backward and work my way back to my teens, this is an outline, but for the many women, younger and older that will read this post, everyone will have personal variables.
No one talks about Menopause and how it affects a woman’s life, mentally, emotionally, and physically. What women can do to take back their power and energy? The moment I hit 50 I was already feeling extremely tired physically and mentally (naps are okay). You will lose significant amounts of iron in your body (get to a doctor right away and get iron pills). If you find yourself sitting down every 5 minutes, this is why? If a woman has had children her body will be drained because of the loss of iron during menopause. Orange Juice daily is natural, and a good supplement for the loss of iron, (one glass). I was so drained and weak I didn’t have the strength to take out the trash and during this time I was caring for my man until he died.
THINGS TO DO TO TAKE BACK YOUR POWER AND ENERGY
- Take a Nap Daily (twice a day if needed, it’s a power nap).
- Change your Diet, to eat light in the morning and a nice healthy meal in the mid-evening.
- Me Time is Very Important (reading a book), (just sitting with quiet time), (relaxing your mind), long walks.
- Communicate to the family (which is very hard to describe your feelings) You are going through a lot, you don’t want to hear arguing and your nerves are fried!!!! Hopefully, this will be clear for them to be considerate, if not, CUT ALL TIES!
- You need to be selfish, this relates to the above statement because as your kids are going through their Mid-life Crisis, (their going mentally bonkers) which is about identity, your going through Menopause and the strain of problems is ugly and you feel as if your in a black hole with no power.
- Menopause is the hardest time for a woman because the family will be at its worst, with problems manifesting, and behaviors out of character, this is why it’s critical to be SELFISH you will need that time to yourself, to gain your power back.
- Menopause can last a good ten years, the more self-love you provide yourself with, the more confidence you will gain.
- Women have taken on, far too much in our lives, especially having kids too young, this can fracture the “IDENTITY” process, so don’t feel guilty about being selfish and doing for yourself. YOU MATTER TOO!
- If you have a husband, you need to tell him how you feel, this can be a rough time in a marriage as well.
- If he is not compassionate or can’t comprehend, he might be going through his own changes not recognizing them. Sometimes it’s really hard for men too. As they are getting older and change, they struggle to express their feelings and relate to the marriage. They might seem distant, as they are unsure of how to please you, or they are struggling with their emotions.
- Communicating it’s vital and can be comforting to each other, to give that support you both need. Be patient and hang in there.
- Since society has become more dysfunctional than ever a road trip can be the medicine you need.
- Create positive change in your life and write down “POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS” I am FABULOUS!!!! I am CONFIDENT!!
- Doing a 30-minute workout, or yard work is a great workout and equivalent to the gym.
- Go shopping and buy yourself new clothes as you begin to get back into shape because that extra belly is unexpected.
- How to get rid of the extra belly during menopause. Or you just choose what feels good for you!
- Go to your doctor and get a full checkup with a blood panel, kidney, and all body organs checked out. Let the Doc know what you’re going through as you will need all the support you can get.
Okay, ladies, I hope this is a good start, I will update you as I go along on my journey, just remember, you matter too and there is nothing wrong with being selfish and giving self-love. It’s vital.
Let me share this, I truly believe being a Capricorn has much to do with my personality traits, which are linked to my behavior with all negative and positive experiences in life having much to do with every aspect of who I am. I never realized how the chakras that are unbalanced can affect us as humans. It has taken me all my life until now, to mature and realize so much about myself. Changing my behavior, being less angry, feeling good, and laughing at myself. Lessening the stress every day, it’s a working process. Senses of the Soul Oracle I found to be very helpful during this time in my life.
As a teenager, I never knew these things existed, how our bodies are made mostly of water, how mid-life change is about Identity, and how confronting your shadow is vital to the darker aspects of knowing your true self. Having babies too dam young strips you of your dreams, opportunities, and life experiences, no young female should have children. Frankly, I believe the road less traveled is best. The sign you are born under is good to study, connecting with your higher self, and understanding your darker aspects (which everyone as them) will bring you a more fulfilled knowledge of your inner being.
As a teen I was so clueless and grew up with so much negative shit, in the house, I never understood why? Now I do, but that will be for another post. All I know is if I had someone to tell me the things I should have known about having kids too young, I would have never had kids!!! Frankly, I never wanted them at all, but my mom doesn’t believe in abortion and I never realized the resentment I had. Now I do, she should have helped me to make a choice, not made the choice for me. Gloria was a good mother don’t get me wrong, we just have different views and my dreams were important to me, knowing who I am and wanting more. Everything changed and my life was no longer mine no one can teach you how to be a parent, but everyone is good at telling you how to raise your kids with contradictions and criticism as if they know any more than you do.
I’m sure I did the same thing to my own daughter, well actually it was the opposite, I encouraged the abortion option, which she has done, twice. She has no kids, but I know it was for the best. Does she resent me because of it? I’ll have to ask her. I just know I didn’t want any of my kids to go through the same problems, and pain I went through, but they have. My sons each have kids and are separated from them, this is another reason not to have kids. When relationships don’t work out, kids don’t have both parents. Children need both parents to be stable in all areas. It’s not worth having kids when the family can’t pull together for the common good and everyone has struggled to try to grow up.
The reason I say all of this is because the hope a young girl reads it, she’ll pay attention and will take care of herself not to have kids, the road less traveled is best because you have no idea how fucken hard it will be and it’s one in a million your marriage or relationship with the father will be a lifetime episode of “Ozzie and Harriet”.
An example I know of is a young woman 32 pregnant and on the street with no one, not even the other party because he lives with her mom and dad. Refusing to take responsibility, even though his mother is a bitch about the situation. Trust me when I say, your life will be fucken hard and disappointing when the pressure hits, it’s no joke! Now that I am older I still have no financial security and being older and getting married for that very reason doesn’t sit with me either. I would like to marry for money, but if I don’t at least like the person I am with, it won’t be good, resentment is always lingering.
Why do you think immature old men want young girls? Because they can’t handle women my age with my confidence and bigger balls than them! Yes, women rule during this time in our lives, and men fucking know it. So ask yourself, do you want to have a good life? Living your dreams, having friends and lovers (at least until you have hopefully found the right man)? Or ongoing struggles with kids? It will be hard and death and divorce are more common than not!!! This world is so fucked up right now, with people’s lives torn apart and the world very unsafe for kids (especially with so much homosexuality) You decide. Educate yourself and work hard, live your dreams, and know who you are because you can’t depend on anyone other than yourself!!!